Girl troubles, help me out faggots
0 2017-01-11 by TheScarletR
Im 23. shes 18, and a senior in high school. She works in a christian nursing home, shes kind of religious but isnt "sure about it". She usually works after school and says shes working every weekend this month. Her shifts are like 9 hours so I sort of sympathize, but also feel a bit slighted.
We've been talking every day for about a week, she almost always texts or snapchats me first thing in the morning. We've been very teenager flirty, saying each other are cute, kiss emojis, the shit that makes you feel really gay, as a dude. She says stuff like "can I tell you something? I have a crush on you❤" we listen to the same kind of music, thats about the only thing we have in common.
So I dont doubt at all that she likes me on some level. But Im definitely worried about playing it too safe and her losing interest.
Also I havent touched a girl in literally 9 years.
83 comments
n/a 867-5309- 2017-01-11
I'm sorry to hear that pesky Meagan's Law had such a negative impact on your love life...
n/a TheScarletR 2017-01-11
They got at me the ripe age of 14
n/a 867-5309- 2017-01-11
I mean it does raise the issue of an underage offender being held accountable as an adult but when the victim is a toddler I'm all for charging 14 year olds as adults...
n/a TheScarletR 2017-01-11
Them titties aint premature though!
n/a throwawizzlemahnizzl 2017-01-11
lol have all my le upboats good sir
n/a Doc_McCoy79 2017-01-11
What's the trouble, it seems like it's going fine? Im fucking jealous, I want that.
n/a TheScarletR 2017-01-11
I havent flirted with girls at all since I lost my virginity in middle school. I gotta say it feels great to do again.
n/a Doc_McCoy79 2017-01-11
Well the title of the thread is "girl trouble," but I don't see any trouble happening yet, you knucklehead.
n/a TheScarletR 2017-01-11
/u/AppleBonfire had me convinced that Im fucking it up bad
n/a Doc_McCoy79 2017-01-11
There's plenty of time for that to happen. Just eat that 18yr old ass while you have the chance. And try not to cum in her.
n/a TheScarletR 2017-01-11
Word. I couldnt sleep last night because I was so excited thinking about diving in that ass and pussy. I also decided not to jerk off which didnt help me at all.
n/a Doc_McCoy79 2017-01-11
Yeah that's a tough call, whether to jerk or not. It really could go either way.
n/a PauxFas 2017-01-11
I don't understand what the problem is here.
n/a TheScarletR 2017-01-11
Alright, good. I was hearing otherwise in a different thread.
n/a dassabessdoe 2017-01-11
The things guys do for pussy, like posting here, asking for advice.
n/a TheScarletR 2017-01-11
How funny would it be if she somehow found this thread.
n/a dassabessdoe 2017-01-11
Not funny.
n/a TheScarletR 2017-01-11
:(
n/a LAMF92 2017-01-11
You should just flat out ask to coom on her boobs
n/a cheddarrooster 2017-01-11
Somehow i am guessing asking questions here never got anyone laid.
n/a dassabessdoe 2017-01-11
That's a lie, "how much?" works.
n/a Icon_Crash 2017-01-11
Did you try to threaten suicide? Chicks did that shit.
n/a TheScarletR 2017-01-11
✔https://www.reddit.com/r/opieandanthony/comments/5nb2xf/i_implied_i_want_to_kill_myself_girls_response/
n/a Icon_Crash 2017-01-11
Maybe you shouldn't just threaten next time.
n/a anarchronism 2017-01-11
You are playing it way too safe. Netflix and chill, dude. Then you can start corrupting her and save her from the clutches of the church.
n/a turnthemaround 2017-01-11
She's assuming you have more experience here and wants you to make the first move. She obviously likes you so don't overthink anything, just ask to hangout.
n/a TheScarletR 2017-01-11
You dont think its weird that she says she has to work every weekend this month? Thats the only part that has me worried.
n/a turnthemaround 2017-01-11
Depends on the context. Did you ask her to hangout on a weekend and she said she's busy every weekend and offered no alternative days? Ask to hangout on a weekday, stupid. Be persistent if you like her.
Maybe you're an ugly r-word and all her friends are playing a joke on you.
n/a TheScarletR 2017-01-11
Well I asked about hanging out and if she comes near the cities ever (Im in "the city" compared to where she lives). I tried to make it casual like "if youre up here ever, come by my house or we can hang out" and she responded "yeah I can drive up there" which to me meant "I dont need to be in the area, I'll drive there to hang out". So I asked about a concert on sunday for a band we both like and then she said she works every weekend this month.
And she did definitively say that she has some days off in february. Which obviously she wouldnt need to say if she just wanted to string me along with texting.
n/a turnthemaround 2017-01-11
I have trouble believing you're not autistic now. I'm no social butterfly but you obviously asked her to a specific event which took place on a weekend, when she's unavailable.
So let me get this straight:
Does she have to spell out "fuck me, SPED"? I hope she's hit by a truck on her way to visit you.
n/a TheScarletR 2017-01-11
Theres no question that Im autistic. I also take medication for depression and anxiety, as well as having abysmal self esteem. It helps to interact with logical people like yourself, sometimes.
n/a AppleBonfire 2017-01-11
Jesus dude. You're over thinking this. For the love of god don't fall for this girl or wrap your depression up in it.
You need to start simple. force yourself to go out and socialise. Start a conversation with a drunk chick in a bar. Don't put any women on a pedestal.
No one is going to come along and fix your problems and walk you through it and be your girlfriend.
Don't get hurt by rejection. Every nigger here (especially here) has dealt with it. It can feel absolutely soul destroying but it's in your own head. If a slit doesn't want you who the fuck cares? MAKE broads want you. It's the only way.
No one is going to want to be with you if you're a weird unhealthy slob that can't socialise. YOU, and only YOU has to change that. It's not hard when you realise there's nothing standing in your way but your self.
n/a TheScarletR 2017-01-11
She doesnt know any of that stuff about me. Im just giving some context for why Im clearly overthinking the whole thing. Im a psychotic wreck when Im by myself but when Im with a girl in person Im usually pretty funny and charming.
And luckily Im decent looking and in pretty good shape compared to most other guys I know. Not like a shredded douche bag but I workout every day and eat pretty healthily. Whereas none of my friends do that shit.
n/a AppleBonfire 2017-01-11
Good. Stop being such a fucking retard then. See where it goes with this chick if you really want to but just prepare mentally to accept it might go nowhere.
Go fuck some easy skanks. You'll feel better and less autistic.
It's so cliche but it's true. just fucking do it and stop being a fag
n/a TheScarletR 2017-01-11
Theres the encouragement I need.
n/a AppleBonfire 2017-01-11
I'm giving you so much of my time because I've been there. I was you 6 years ago. I leeched on to girls who gave me attention and treated them like queens when they were objectively selfish people.
Don't do it. Nobody cares about your problems or your anxiety or depression. You can either try and find others to help and make yourself worse or you can actually fix it and do it yourself.
Nobody will love you if you don't love yourself. Only hard work and determination will lead to happiness. When you're happy with yourself women will naturally magnate to you. If you're broken you'll only get other co dependant messes.
I've been cheated on by my wife and I have to see the guy who stole her live in my house and raise my kid. Don't learn the hard way.
Another thing, whatever you do for a living - do it better and work more. Don't look at it as a bad thing. It's not. It pays off. Not just financially.
n/a TheScarletR 2017-01-11
While I have you here, let me get your take on one more thing.
As I said elsewhere here, I invited her to a concert on sunday to which she responded with "I have to work every weekend this month" So at one point do I initiate a meetup again, without giving off a "how bout this day? No? How bout this one?" vibe?
n/a AppleBonfire 2017-01-11
Working every weekend isn't weird. I did when I was that age. Most kids do. I still work almost every weekend.
Just say "let me know when you're free and we can finally hang out!"
Then if she still evades it. Forget her. Look at her from someone else's eyes. She's only great in yours.
n/a Smokegreentrees 2017-01-11
Your acting cucky, you only have 1 life to live unless you are some sorta Hindu-queeb, it doesn't sounds like you are taking advantage of that shit.
n/a turnthemaround 2017-01-11
*You're
Just trying to keep high standards here.
n/a Smokegreentrees 2017-01-11
I here what you're saying I make that mistake too much.
n/a goo-gobbler 2017-01-11
I owe you one peckah tug for making my day.
n/a MouseCunt 2017-01-11
I've worked every weekend for the last 5 years. Some people have different schedules
n/a LAMF92 2017-01-11
She sounds like shes stringing you along. Ask her to fuck, if she says no, bail, buy a whore, 9 years is to long
n/a TheScarletR 2017-01-11
I've been seriously thinking on buying a whore.
n/a Icon_Crash 2017-01-11
OP should ask to smell her breath and then kiss her.
n/a OkaySeriouslyBro 2017-01-11
If you met her on an app like tinder or bumble or whatever, she's seeing and fucking other guys. That's why she's busy "every weekend this month" - prioritizing better looking guys over you.
The thing with being an 18-year-old girl is that a lot of guys want to fuck you. Handsomer, funnier, more athletic, more desirable guys than Captain "I havent touched a girl in literally 9 years". But hey, she'll text you and keep you dangling on the line because it's positive male attention coming her way, so you get kiss emojis while some other guy is loosening up her vagina.
I wouldn't worry about her losing interest because she never was interested in you to begin with. Remember the old Patrice bit about how guys want pussy from girls, but girls want time from guys? Keep texting cutesy shit every day without any physical interaction whatsoever, or just move on to another tinder gal and don't be such a beta pussy the next time you get a match.
n/a TheScarletR 2017-01-11
You hurt my feelings. Im downvoting your comment.
n/a OkaySeriouslyBro 2017-01-11
You're not a fat girl on facebook.
You don't get to post your stupid self-made problems and expect only praise and encouragement. You go Matt! Any girl would be lucky to land a stud like you! Flawless!
I'm sorry but there are two options here:
She's moderately okay-looking or higher, and is communicating with a lot more guys than you. Having sweet conversations with you and blowing them.
She's ugly as sin, the guys at high school don't give her attention, so she latches onto the first thirsty suitor she can (you).
The third option, where this sweet innocent flower has fallen completely for "havent touched a girl in 9 years", but her gosh darn work schedule is just so complicated for her to spend one minute with you, it isn't very realistic. This isn't a fucking Disney movie
n/a TheScarletR 2017-01-11
I posted for advice, not praise. Im not even disagreeing that she may be talking to other dudes, that doesnt really bother me. Nonetheless, she usually initiates conversation with me, which counts for something, no matter how cynical you are. Nothing Ive said to her gives off the fact that I havent been laid in a decade, so Im not worried about that either.
I'd say its closer to the first scenario. Shes an attractive asian girl, she doesnt look like a model, and shes not a chubby slob. Judging by her social media (I know thats not the only indicator) she interacts with mostly girls.
She also does a dozen extra curricular shit at/after school, so shes not really a prime target for getting hit on all the time.
You have some semblance of a point, but youre being a cynical cunt as well.
n/a AppleBonfire 2017-01-11
He's telling you the truth. I'm willing to bet he has some real actual experience with women because he's completely spot on.
You'll learn!
n/a TheScarletR 2017-01-11
Im not dismissing him. But being the one talking to this girl, I get no sense at all that shes a vicious hole just trying to build her self esteem.
Im aware that exists but I dont think its the case, here.
n/a AppleBonfire 2017-01-11
You're a dummy then
n/a TheScarletR 2017-01-11
Fair enough
n/a OkaySeriouslyBro 2017-01-11
You're being a defensive cunt who wants validation, not advice.
She initiates conversation with you because that's what she wants. The knowledge that there's a guy out there waiting from the crack of dawn til evening who'll be there for her, listen to her bullshit, chat and flirt.
Are you at all aware of the concept of the "friendzone"? Why do you think it's such a common, universal thing for girls to spend their youth hanging out and talking with boys, and then when poor Trevor works up the courage to kiss her, she wants to stay friends? Do you think it's just a coincidence that so many guys, from the age of 13-20, have eventually found themselves being put in the friendzone with a girl they liked?
If she's giving you bullshit excuses why you can't see her (oh man im working every weekend sorry lol) and you're so into this girl that you're stalking her social media to see who she hangs out with, those are MAJOR FUCKING RED FLAGS that override any "omg I have a crush on you ;)" shit.
n/a TheScarletR 2017-01-11
Again, youre reading all of this from an odd angle. I asked her to hang out on a weekend, she said shes specifically not available on the weekends this month. Not "haha gosh Idk when we'll hang out...."
And I dont text her back immediately every time she texts me. Thats another thing youre assuming. As well as that Im "stalking her social media". I searched her name on facebook just to assure it was a real girl, I didnt add her, or contact her on it.
Im not being defensive. Im being reasonable. I totally accept what youre saying, but I dont think its the case with this girl.
Youre being an ass hat.
n/a OkaySeriouslyBro 2017-01-11
Do you understand the definition of the word "defensive"?
Because you just spent an entire post defending your stupid relationship from criticism and ended it with "I'm not being defensive".
This girl isn't an evil malicious cunt, she's like the vast majority of 18-year-olds. Wanting male attention without giving up the puss. Get your emotional needs met while also not having the bitchy girls in gym class call you a slut because a classmate heard a rumor she puts out for older boys.
But hey, you haven't touched a girl in 9 years and ask r/opieandanthony for girl advice, so who the fuck am I to question you? You're clearly an expert on women so why ask us lowly schmucks for answers you already have? She's madly in love with you, nothing could go wrong, and anyone saying otherwise you're just gonna downvote like the emotionally stable fella you are.
n/a TheScarletR 2017-01-11
A summary of our chat:
You: dude shes playing you, she wants to bang other dudes, she doesnt like you
Me: I see what youre saying but, based on the evidence, I think youre wrong in this case
You: No you faggot, Im right. Stop being a defensive bitch.
Me: Again, I see your point but I think youre wrong here.
You: Why are you being so defensive. Agree with me that youre an unlikeable beta fag.
You give so much noble insight, its difficult to not take it as gospel, ya know?
n/a OkaySeriouslyBro 2017-01-11
You: I'M CRAZY AND STUPID AND PISSED OFF.
Me: By comparison, I'm cool and calm and collected.
You: FAG UNLIKABLE BETA FAG IM RIGHT STOP BEING A BITCH
Me: Woah there character, I'm too calm and collected to stoop to your childish insults.
You: SO ANGRY CANT TALK GOOD BAHSDAOHFSOAHFOASHFOASDHDOS FART FART FART STUPID ASS BITCH
Me: Yikes. Well I've clearly won this argument by being calm, reasonable, and logical while my opponent has clearly lost the argument by being a raving lunatic.
n/a TheScarletR 2017-01-11
you're really giving me the business today /u/OkaySeriouslyBro, and I gotta say I'm not too keen on it.
n/a AppleBonfire 2017-01-11
This is what I was trying to articulate. It's pretty horrible but it's the truth.
Get your head in the game man. Stop being a beta gay fag and be a man.
n/a Smokegreentrees 2017-01-11
dont cuck out guy.
n/a TossyMcSalad 2017-01-11
Kill her and fuck the corpse.
n/a TheScarletR 2017-01-11
Thats plan b my dude
n/a UnwarrantedArrogance 2017-01-11
Never let a woman see you as humble or hear you make self deprecating jokes. Don't be worried about coming off as overconfident or arrogant or a know-it-all. Most women who are smart enough to notice don't mind, as confidence is like top 3 things they want in a guy. No bullshit I'm 26 and I just realized this 3 months ago and a lot has changed for me. If a woman is yelling at you "you think you're so fucking smart don't you?" That means you are IN. Most women just want a man to grab them by the hand and say "I've got this, everything is going to be fine" and MEAN it.
I'm currently shitting at work while I type this so I might be wrong. It worked for me though.
n/a TheScarletR 2017-01-11
Nah I agree with that. I think Ive done okay at appearing confident but definitely afraid to seem arrogant, since that would be the most phony vibe I could ever give off.
n/a MouseCunt 2017-01-11
Why the fuck would you come here of all places for relationship advice?
n/a TheScarletR 2017-01-11
This is like only sub I post in, dude. Everything I do is in here.
n/a throwawizzlemahnizzl 2017-01-11
say that to her
n/a AntsCamera 2017-01-11
Just rape her, post vids here.
n/a NumeroOtto 2017-01-11
hey ther friend, I'm 24 and so I'm sure we've a lot in common considering we have the same taste in fun morning radio, the best route to take in my humble opinion is to rape and kill her
n/a TheScarletR 2017-01-11
THANKS DUDE👏👏👏
n/a Porkclerk82 2017-01-11
This explains why all of your posts annoy me. Thank you for revealing why you have no ability to critically think or make a coherent point. It's because you're the stereotypical loser internet commenter I've always heard about!
n/a TheScarletR 2017-01-11
Next post will be nothing but coherent points. What will you say then, huh?
n/a turnthemaround 2017-01-11
Going off information on this thread, I'm guessing you live in Boston BTW, or at least MA.
n/a TheScarletR 2017-01-11
Nah Im in the midwest son.
n/a HitEmWTheHeinnn 2017-01-11
Nigga, haven't you heard of "The BLACK Phillip Show?"
n/a Opprobriousness 2017-01-11
Just jack off and play video games.
n/a baraksobamas 2017-01-11
I think a 23 year old trying to date an 18 year old is creepier than a 50 year old trying to fuck one.
n/a AppleBonfire 2017-01-11
I'm 29 and I date 18 year olds. It's a lot more stress free than dating girls my age. My ex wife is 31 and I'm never doing that again.
I used to think all girls were cunts till they were about 25 and then they mellowed out but they just get worse as they age.
Women straight up suck.
n/a KNUCKKLEFUCKER 2017-01-11
You have nothing in common with this girl, and you hang out online here. Sounds like a perfect match if you ask me. SMH. Go see a call girl, and make sure you pay her for two hours, because you will blow a nut before you even get there. Tell her you need to build your confidence and you need multiple pops in a two hour session. Do this once a year until you learn how to properly sleigh some pussy.
You sound like one of those guys who will fall in love with the first girl that gives them some pussy. You need to have your heart broken 2 or 3 x before you can properly deal with a relationship. Once your heart turns into a black souless pit, you will take no shit off of bitches. You will learn that you don't need anybody but yourself, and when the right guy comes along you'll have a real relationship.
n/a crunchtimestudio 2017-01-11
I think you should do a school shooting and make all those whores PAY for rejecting you
n/a Billyassman 2017-01-11
Everybody is fuckn that cunt,worry wart.
n/a myqhunt 2017-01-11
Act like a human being for 5 minutes and hold a conversation with her. If u do that enough times, and your intentions are clear enough, shit will happen. Then tell her about ole turtle fingers will be at Goonies in Rochester, MN 24 thru da 26
n/a myqhunt 2017-01-11
Act like a human being for 5 minutes and hold a conversation with her. If u do that enough times, and your intentions are clear enough, shit will happen.
n/a TheScarletR 2017-01-11
They got at me the ripe age of 14
n/a TheScarletR 2017-01-11
:(
n/a TheScarletR 2017-01-11
Well I asked about hanging out and if she comes near the cities ever (Im in "the city" compared to where she lives). I tried to make it casual like "if youre up here ever, come by my house or we can hang out" and she responded "yeah I can drive up there" which to me meant "I dont need to be in the area, I'll drive there to hang out". So I asked about a concert on sunday for a band we both like and then she said she works every weekend this month.
And she did definitively say that she has some days off in february. Which obviously she wouldnt need to say if she just wanted to string me along with texting.
n/a TheScarletR 2017-01-11
Theres the encouragement I need.